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What If Decisions

What if the ONE decision you make today will be the source of your greatest joy or source of your gravest sorrow.

Recently when I visited my motherland, I had an opportunity to be driven home by a very close relative of mine. After the formalities, as usual our conversation drifted to politics of which I always promise myself that I will stop engaging in politic talks but my next promise I quickly make is always after I have audibly and probably even a little bit aggressively have expressed myself on this topic of politics.

As we continued with our chat, suddenly it clicked my mind, “oh I have a good example to use”, and there before thinking I gave out my example like it was this great specimen to prove my point. Here is my example; Oil was discovered in National park X, this was a great opportunity for a nation that is trying to stabilize economically. The drilling process started and soon changes were inevitable inside the Park, the destruction of natural resources was happening over another natural resource. The answer I received from him I must say I was not prepared for it, “why do they need a park if they have oil?” Our discussion earlier on before the example was about how resources like minerals and oil are like a curse rather than a blessing to the African continent. And there went my question to this dear relative; “what will we show the next generation if we destroy this precious natural resources”. Again the answer I received I must say I was not prepared for it, “that will be their problem not ours”. I was dismayed and every bit of me warned me that not everyone is of the same mind as you. So what next

So what if the one decision you make today will make a great difference either positive or negative impact in future. What if you choose to give something small to that charity will help that child go to school that whole year? What if that grocery shopping you bought for that homeless family will be the only decent meal they’ve had for the last one month? What if that hospital bill you paid helped to treat a single parent of four children? What if that street child you dressed is the next president of your great nation? What if those words of wisdom and care you gave to that stranger who was depressed saved him from committing suicide?

Some of us reason out that it is their problem; after all they are the one who made those stupid mistakes. Yes they made mistakes and now they are in this situation, but how do you know by the decision you make today this child will be of help to you in future in an amazing way you never expected or your worst nightmare.

Let me give you a true example. There is this young man in my village that we schooled together the same period in primary level. They were not really well to do and they had financial problems so he did not join the secondary level. In each district, there are different bursaries offered to disadvantage children but unfortunately money was dished out based on who knows who, in the end this boy did not benefit from it. This boy got frustrated and started drinking and doing drugs, all he saw was hopelessness. Today this boy is in a maximum prison for a murder he committed under the influence of what he took that day. After the incident, the whole village demonized him, even his own family, no one bothered to offer even the tiniest sympathy to him. Now my question is, what if those bursary committees considered him and allocated him a bursary, probably we would be calling him today Dr. Y. And the wife of the deceased will not be a widow or her child an orphan at that tender age. The whole incident has never given me comfort, all I ask myself is, if someone made the right decision then, we would be singing a different song now.

There might not be that ideal world but you can make an IDEAL decision today that will affect the future.

I think it is time I started my long awaited dream I had shelved out of fear, the dream is to encourage people to give a minimum of one dollar a month to help the disadvantage children.

Thank you for reading this but I will be even more grateful if we made the right decisions today to change other lives, that 1$ can go a long way, trust me, am already involve with a Community Based Organization that helps disadvantage children in slums and every donation always count.

What if we changed the words what if and replace them with I will, I did, I pledge, just a thought.

Thanks for reading and sharing

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Does Love Has both Positive and Negative Sides?

 

Recently I was thinking about love and wondered if love has two sides, is there the positive and negative side of love, I will leave this question for open discussion.

For me love is a positive force that leads us to serve others.  It seeks the good of others first, I know this sounds unreal but how many of us do something with the other person in mind and expect to receive nothing back, if you have then that is love.

Love is what pushes us to go that extra mile, it cause us to give even when some of our needs are not yet met, leads  us to help that stranger who is about to be pushed out of the bus for lack of enough fare.  Love does not seek its own good but the good of others.

Having said that, how comes it hurts so much when that person you loved left you for another, when the good you deed is paid back with evil, (not that you were expecting any payback).

Does love has its negative side, as we think about this, let me quote scripture from the bible:

1 Corinthians 13

 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, it profits me nothing.

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.

11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

 

Love is The Greatest Gift!